(originallly posted on my AFF blog)
So, upon seeing some lyrics to Let’s Talk About Sex today, got me thinking about how much I loved that song by Salt N Peppa. This also got me thinking about another song I’m rather fond of, Ain’t 2 Proud 2 Beg by TLC. Why don’t we hear more songs like this on the radio? Instead of screaming against the guys singing about ho’s, let’s promote more music like these songs. Not that I know where they are, but I’m not the authority on finding obscure music. I’ll gladly take suggestions.
Some doofus on the Wiki, suggested that Ain’t 2 Proud 2 Beg is, “The song is very much about the girls saying that they don’t mind begging for sex.” Seriously, that’s what he/she said! Are they dense? How can it be that any intelligent person got so little from that song.
First of all, let me point this out. Whether or not you believe in monogamy; or whether Chili, T-BoZ or Left Eye do/did; the song does talk about it. The song is not about going out and begging just anyone to jump your bones. It’s about being willing to show your vulnerability and sexual desire to the man in your life. Why is it always cute to show some poor schlub begging his wife for a little action, but when a woman is showing her needs, it’s played as so atypical it’s a fountain for jokes about objectifying men?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m prone to objectifying men. And I’ll tell you a little secret, I don’t mind being occasionally objectified myself. Note the word, occasionally. Occasional objectification is actually a good thing. Objectify means, by the way, “to present as an object, esp. of sight, touch, or other physical sense; make objective; externalize.” What does that mean? Well, I suppose it’s a little subjective, but to me, it means to fantasize about someone with no significant thought to establish the true boundaries of that person. That’s what making them an object means, to give them no anima of their own, only what you make for them. It’s kind of like describing the flow of water by saying it skipped its way along the pebbles of the creek bed, as if the drops were playing their own little game of leap frog. You establish your own ideal of intention and desire to the item that has no true personality. The only problem with doing it to people is, first you must ignore the true personality that you know the person has, and establish them as having as little intellect and will as that water.
But ultimately, this is just a form of fantasizing. And fantasizing is healthy, for your mind as well as your body. It’s a great way to disconnect from reality, briefly, and indulge your mind. Moderation is, of course, important. But moderation, my friends, not abstinence!
Ain’t 2 Proud 2 Beg and Let’s Talk About Sex were about true empowerment, not just for women, but for men too. Why shouldn’t a man know how it feels to see his woman, pouting and kissing her way up his chest, obviously hoping to ‘talk’ him into a little playtime? Any woman who’s experienced a man in desperate enough need to groan for it, knows the heady feeling it evokes, and I think men should be as entitled to that as women. And women should feel strong enough in their sexuality to be willing to admit to their man, that they need that physical contact/pleasure as much as their partner. Imagine what more strength we could find, strength to truly ask for what we want, if we admit that we have needs. Samantha was right. Naughty girls do need love to. But good girls need some naughty once in a while themselves. Which am I? I’ll leave that to more objective parties to say. 
Why did the girl power movement start ignoring sexuality again? We were finally getting it together in the 80’s, and off it rolls again, like an earring you finally find under the couch, only to lose again the next day, possibly under the same couch, but you’re not moving the damn thing again! It’s time to resurrect the message people.
On a lighter note, I found this cute game posting game online. You put “(your name) needs a” into google (with the quotes) and see what you get. It seems to vary, how many lines people post. I went with 11, because I felt like it. For the record, this game has been around a bit, so I intentionally removed lines that were from posts of people with my name playing.
Katherine needs a 1st mate!
Katherine needs a real house.
Katherine needs A BOYFRIEND.
Katherine needs a distraction, so that she can put off the selling of Jabot for right now before she make a bad decision.
Katherine needs a hero in her life.
Katherine needs a man to chip some stones out of the wall.
Katherine needs a manicure! Great tits, though!
Katherine needs a break from health issues.
Katherine needs a vacation.
This game is better than a magic 8 ball, and more astute. I need several of those things.
Night all,
T
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