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Express Yourself…ok not all at once.

30 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

I want to start off by saying I love men. Even with some of the sucky I’ve known, I still hold the male of the species in high regard, and not just for their recreational possibilities. And I don’t dismiss an appreciation for a sensitive man, one who understands the value of others, and who has an appreciation for women.

That said, I’m sick to death of men telling me how divine women are and how much respect they have for women. Or worse yet, ones who give you examples to demonstrate their great admiration of the feminine. That’s like telling someone you’re a great kisser, it doesn’t mean jack until I see it in action.

It’s good to know that you’re not going to treat me like a drunken frat boy (though that might be fun one night). But stop telling me all about how much you love women and going on about your saintly mother and how much you do to look after your sisters. Now sure, these stories will be great to hear at random intervals, but that is part of getting to know one another. Through your behavior, and what I learn about you, I determine that you have a respectful nature. Don’t feed me a litany of reasons you should be made an honorary member of NOW in your initial contact.

And while we’re at it, can we can the messages detailing how absolutely I rock? I’ll gladly take comments on my blog, on my pictures, on my profile. But when you come on like Casanova trying to get in the window, lavishing with romantic compliments, on the first email…why the hell would I buy lines like that?

Do you want to talk to me? I’m game. I love a good conversation. And with any luck, we’ll hit it off, and it’ll go somewhere (somewhere quiet and with a soft bed nearby would be nice). But don’t extol my virtues or the virtues of my gender. And don’t tell me all about how much either impresses you. Start a conversation. You want to talk to me, ask a question, pose a thought, initiate some dialogue. Better yet, make me laugh.

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It’s early yet, maybe you can still get lucky in a bar…like you did last Thursday.

26 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

Do you ever find out there’s an old movie on DVD and you can’t believe you didn’t know about it. Thus I discovered tonight, when I was trying to find a quote from one of my favorite 80’s guilty pleasures, Amazon Women on the Moon. This movie ranks up there with Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex, But Were Afraid to Ask. I miss these kinds of movies. Random snippets of fun in a goofy hodge podge of comedy.

I am so psyched to find out there’s a special edition out of this. It’s even got some deleted scenes apparently. This is definitely on my To Buy list.

My two favorite parts of this movie will always be Black People w/out Soul and 2 I.D.’s. BPw/oS features a early David Alan Grier (roughly the same time as another classic, From The Hip), in some of the funniest scenes he’s ever done. It’s all about a charity to aid a segment of the african-american culture that became an easy butt of jokes in the 80’s. The sort of black republican thing, ala Carlton in Fresh Prince of Bel Air.

2 I.D.’s features little known (at the time) Rosanna Arquette and Steve Guttenberg on a blind date. Rosanna has a nifty little machine, which looks a lot like an early fax, that will take the driver license number and credit card of a date and give her a VERY thorough detailing of his history, specifically his dating history. Watching nice-guy Jerry balk at being told that he’s proven himself selfish in bed 11 times, that he’s used the same line on the last 16 dates, and that his hundreds of sexual encounters only actually equals 21, is hilarious.

That’s the scene that I was trying to find a quote from, and when I got on a roll with this, it’s what I ended up using for my subject line. Don’t we all wish we had a little gadget like this? This was another pervasive theme that showed up in the 80’s, sexual history on demand. This was a response to the yuppie movement, and their ‘get it in writing’ mentality. Another movie that made great light of this idea was Cherry 2000, where they actually signed contracts, negotiated by legal counsel, before having one night stands.

Now I’m not saying this is a good idea, talk about kicking spontaneity’s ass. But given that we’ve all run into our share of disappointments in dating, sex and love, on Adult FriendFinder as well as elsewhere, wouldn’t it be great to get an actual history of what someone has done sexually? Not just what they might’ve caught either, but how they actually are at it! How many guys would still talk about how much they LOVE oral if they had to prove it before getting you in the sack? How many women would go on about their skills at BJ’s if there was documentation to confirm/denounce their talent?

Of course, the biggest problem with this is simply subjectivity. What one person deems great might get a mediocre rating from another. I guess it would be like Ebay, you look at the bulk of the good ratings of a seller, check out just how bad the bad ones are, and go with your odds. The other problem is what many of us find when dealing with credit scores, if you haven’t had much of a chance to build up your rating, it looks worse than a bad rating.

I don’t know if I would be a proponent for this or not. It makes one wonder if you wouldn’t just rather explore Massachusetts new law supporting sex with a robot, much like the guy in Cherry 2000. Hell, I’d consider buying me an Evan Stone model, but only if he includes audio tracks of his best lines from all the “Girl with the” movies. I love those cornball soft core flicks. But when you think about all these possibilities, it certain paints an interesting picture of sex in the 21st century.

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Baby It’s Cold Outside…

25 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

Well this kind of sucks. I know I made another post to the blog a few days ago. I remember clearly finishing it and making sure it went through, because I got to dosing around that time and I wanted to make sure it went through, and low and behold, it’s not here. Well that is part and parcel for my holiday weekend. Spent Monday extremely sick, some kind of flu bug. So now I’m tired and sore, and unfortunately, not from doing anything fun.

Does anyone know today’s song title? If so, you know it’s a fun little song about luring your sweetheart to stay the night. I got to thinking about this a few months back, when I had a loop of Zoey Deschanel and Will Ferrel singing it on my MP3 player (wow do they do a great version). I think a great way to update this song would be to do a little gender bending. Imagine this with the man insisting on leaving and the woman luring him to stay. I know, it’s antiquated enough with a woman doing that dialogue, but it would be a very fun little bit to do.

I get odd ideas like that about music sometimes, a way to change it up. I know of several songs by male vocalists that I’ve thought would be interesting to sing at a lesbian bar, for instance, Jesse McCartney’s Right Where You Want Me.

Something else I’ve thought of. Sort of a music video, but not exactly. It’s just 4 people, in a crowed semi-outdoor plaza at night. A woman is with 3 men (obviously close to all them but no relationships are confirmed), walking in the moonlight. Suddenly Hinder’s Lips of an Angel starts playing, and one man sweeps her to the center of the plaza and begins to waltz with her. Then he spins her away and another of the men takes the lead. Throughout the song they stand around her in a circle, each taking a turn to waltz her around the plaza and then pass her to another. I know it doesn’t exactly go with the theme of that song, but it’s such a beautiful and powerful melody, and I think it would be an exquisite image.

Well, I think I’ll try to recreate that other blog post, but not tonight. Have to work in the AM. Night gentle readers.

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There’s things that you guess, and things that you know…

22 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

I had this song in my head today (George Michael’s I Want Your Sex, if you didn’t get it from the lyric). You’d think the reason would be obvious, but it’s not as clear as that. Yes, I’m horny, but thanks to overactive hormones that’s basically my natural state these days. You learn to cope with unfulfilled cravings. Thank the goddess for the electronic age.

No, it’s more than just that. It’s been a while since I actually heard this song, but it always slips back into my mind eventually. The funny thing is, I’d honestly forgotten some of the lyrics, and when I went to refresh my memory, I realized why it’s on my mind.

People focus now on the fact this video had George cavorting with hot chicks when it seems he preferred big dicks. But isn’t it time we moved past that and really paid attention to this song and it’s message? I think even George didn’t fully get it when they were making this video. It seems to promote monogamous relationships, but what I think it’s really about is accepting what you want sexually and finding a way to make that work in the day to day of living.

It’s about not standing back from what you desire and saying, “I want that, but someone or something says it’s wrong, so I better not.” This goes back to my continuing theme, letting go of our bullshit baggage and recognizing that, as long as what you want harms no one else, no one has a right to tell you it’s wrong. Not religion, not the government, not the parenting groups or the moral majority. If they don’t want to get laid, that’s their business. Stop letting them tell you that you can’t. And ladies, this goes double for you.

On another subject, though also related, I’m feeling rather proud of myself at the moment. Despite my geekiness, I’m falling behind technologically in some ways. I don’t know how to do a lot of the cool things geeks do now a days, but today I learned something fun.

I’m very big on personalization. I like the things that I use to represent me, to look like they are mine and no one else’s. I’m even thinking of doing some interesting things with my car’s exterior next year, depending on how expensive it is. So I’ve had a new PDA phone for about a month now. It was more necessity than frivolous, due to all the things I have to keep track of now a days. But I was getting sick of the fact that there was so many limits to making it look like mine. Now, no one who turns it on can doubt it.

I found a cool program today, taught myself to use it, and spent most of the evening putting together a beautiful theme, based on a picture I took of a sterling rose. It came out gorgeous. And many people who know me know of my love of sterling roses. They are one of the most beautiful flowers, and they represent something very special to me. Most roses are lovely but dangerous, thorns keeping you from touching where ever you want. And for the most part, the colors are so bland and monochromatic. Sterling roses are several lovely shades of purple, a color I’m very fond of for it’s richness, and there are no thorns to punish you for reaching out and touching their beauty. They are intimacy in a flower, and I adore them for all these reasons.

So, tomorrow, after I get some other things done, I’m going to figure how a place to share this theme with other PocketPC users. Everyone should have this lovely available to them. Incidentally, this is why emails haven’t gone out yet tonight, but that’s next on my list. Night gentle readers.

Note: The picture attached is the screenshot the program creates for you, so you have an image to post when you upload it to share. Obviously I don’t live in Redmond or have a wife.

A theme I made for my PDA, featuring a sterling rose photograph.

A theme I made for my PDA, featuring a sterling rose photograph.

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Come on and teach me tonight!

15 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

Ok, as discussed, this is my answer to Sex Ed. Please remember this is not a full class outline, just a beginning structure. This is also not a class for 5th grade. I’m thinking 7th is better. Students who are already aware they are homosexual may be given an alternate arrangement of lessons to better apply to them. First of all, have to change the name. Sex Ed has been destroyed by history, so we’ll go with…

Human Sexuality

Lesson 1: The Basics.

In this class students will learn about the anatomy of men and women. By the end of this class they should grasp the following concepts:

1. ALL parts of male and female genitalia and reproductive systems.
2. The process of procreation.
3. STD’s; how they are contracted and effects.
4. Safe sex practices. Time will be given to abstinence, but since there’s not much to do there, it will be a brief time. The class will have a thorough understanding of pregnancy and disease prevention.

Lesson 2: Self Exploration

In this class students will learn more details about their anatomy including the location of all common erogenous zones. Their homework will involve spending at least one hour, with a mirror, learning more about their individual sexual organs. They will be expected to return to class with a list of their most sensitive erogenous zones, and this will be discussed during the beginnings of the next class.

Lesson 3: Self Gratification

In this class students will learn about the various forms of masturbation, for men and women. The class will include interactive discussion about using their own erogenous zone list to help develop an understanding of what forms of masturbation will be most gratifying to them. The students will also be encouraged to ask questions about any urban legends, rumors and stories they’ve heard about masturbation, and they will leave class with the hard facts on the dangers and benefits to self gratification.

Lesson 4: Foreplay and Sexual Play w/out Intercourse

This class will endeavor to apply the Lesson 3 information to giving gratification to a partner. The students will also be encouraged to use what was learned in Lesson 2 to develop their own ways of exploring a partners body for their erogenous zones. This class will include a discussion on identifying the level of a partners pleasure through verbal and non-verbal cues. For those students who wish to put off intercourse for moral, religious or health reasons, finding ways to use sexual play exclusively to share intimacy and address their sexual needs will be outlined.

Lesson 5: Sexual Intercourse 1

This is an intensive class which will aim at understanding all the details of penetration. Students will learn ways to minimize pain and discomfort their first time. They will also learn about types of rhythm, several sexual positions for the purposes of penetration, and the benefits/drawbacks of the different positions. This class will outline the use of lubricants, and will detail how they can interact with condoms and other forms of birth control/STD prevention.

Lesson 6: Sexual Intercourse 2

This will continue the earlier class discussion with a specific focus on transitioning between foreplay and penetration, continuing sexual touching and play during penetration, and post-intercourse play. This class will also give information on best practices for intercourse in non-traditional locations, such as the shower, bathtub, swimming pool and outdoors. Additional positions will be given to the students regarding intercourse in a vehicle, and suggestions for cleanup when having car sex will also be introduced. This class will end with a group discussion on finding places for privacy while in teen years, in addition to cars, and ways to use stereo’s and televisions to discreetly cover noise when necessary.

Lesson 7: Introduction to Oral and Anal Sex

The students will be given the basic information on performing oral and anal sex. By the end of this class they should have a thorough understanding of:

1. How to incorporate oral sex into their foreplay and intercourse activities.
2. How to prevent pain and discomfort to your partner during oral and anal sex.
3. Beginning anal play and preparation for anal sex.
4. The use of hand techniques coupled with anal and oral sex.
5. Additional safe sex practices that can be applied with oral and anal sex.

Lesson 8: Advanced Oral and Anal Sex

This class will continue from Lesson 7. The students will learn advanced techniques of giving oral sex. The class will also learn safe practices for self grooming regarding oral and anal sex. They will examine the different types of hair removal and other hygiene issues that can accentuate their exploration of oral and anal sex.

Lesson 9: Fetishes and Alternate Sexual Practices

The students will be given a thorough list of known fetishes and a class discussion will be used to help them gain a basic understanding of each. The class will also be given an overview of possible sexual scenarios involving more than 2 people, and will learn the logistics of those scenarios, including popular positions involving 3 or more participants. Students will also learn about piercings and what role the play in sexual stimulation.

Lesson 10: Pornography and Toys

The beginning of this class will be dedicated to understanding the different kinds of porn, how it can relate to various fetishes, and how to find the kind of porn that is most inspiring to them. It will also outline using pornography to search for new sexual avenues a person would like to explore. In the second half of the class they will be introduced to several types of sexual toys, including but not limited to; vibrators, dildos, butt-plugs, whips, paddles, anal beads and restraint devices. The class will conclude with a discussion of the best ways to combine various toys with different forms of sexual play and intercourse.

Lesson 11: Putting It All Together

This class will begin with a QA session. 6 guest instructors, 3 men and 3 woman from varying age groups, will answer student questions on any sexual topic. The second portion of the lesson will be a class discussion of what they have learned throughout the course. The final portion of the class will be to outline additional resources the students can use to learn more about any sexual topic, and a reiteration of safe sex practices.

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Kiss me, beneath the milky twilight…

12 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

Quickie tonight. Just a thought that occurred to me to talk about. The perfect first kiss.

On a standard dating site I was once given some grief over my thoughts on a first date kiss. It seems some women, in this day and age, actually think kissing on a first date is a no-no. I know, I had to contain my shock too. I found that idea crazy. Of course on this same site I was actually told that it takes a year or more to know if you’re in love. Seriously, if I was dating someone a year, and either of us didn’t know if we were in love yet, that’s a doomed relationship IMO.

My thoughts on a first kiss are a little less 1700’s. First of all, it’s not compulsory. If the connections not there, it’s ok to wait. But if there’s no sparks by a second meeting, they aren’t likely to develop.

The perfect kiss comes when the sparks are there, from the beginning. When the whole night you just feel more and more sure that you’re both feeling electricity (romantic, sexual or both). Here’s the glitch though, don’t wait until the doorstep. The perfect kiss doesn’t happen at the end, because if it were really perfect, neither of you could wait that long. The kiss should come at a moment when you’re so lost in each others company that you feel a genuine compulsion to touch; when you can’t stand it anymore, and you have to be closer. If you wait too long, if you let that moment pass, it could be lost forever.

Now comes the fun part. It’s ok to go slow at first, to give the other party a chance to back away politely. You have to allow for the possibility only you are feeling it, or they are one of these antiquated girls. But once you’re both committed, and you know the moment is accepted, don’t hold back.

There is nothing more erotic or just pleasantly intense, than being pulled close and kissed hard. And if it’s working, don’t stop until you have to, either due to breathing difficulties or a risk of a public indecency charge.

The thing is, it’s not about technique so much. Some people like hard, some soft, some with body touching, some with focus on lips. Some like arms around their waist, some (like me) love a firm hand behind the head. You never know for sure what they like. But if you convey you’re deep desire for them in that kiss, it’s perfect unto itself. It’s about what both people are feeling, and giving in to those feelings.

The perfect kiss is about passion.

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Get Out Of My Dreams, Get Into My Car

10 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

Ok, taking a break from the sociology to gloat a little. While normally I get to work and can barely manage a “Morning” let alone a good tacked on, today I was damn near chipper as I walked into work. And that’s because I drove to work in my new car.

Let me put this into perspective. My last car was a ‘96 Nissan Sentra. The electric system was a pain in the ass, because the intermittent wipers only worked occasionally, the starter would act wonky in the summer, and in the winter the power locks would go from not working to randomly locking. This was particularly frustrating because the manual locks were so bad I broke a key off in the trunk and driver door in the last two years. The trunk also got water inside when it rained heavy or I used a car wash. It needed brake work, exhaust work, transmission work, some kind of axle covering had a rip in it, and it was either too hot or too cold in the winter.

Now for the new car. 05 Ford Focus. Power everything but seats, but I don’t care too much about that. CD player (which plays MP3 CDs), great heat. I wanted a 4 door, but the 3-door isn’t that big a deal for me. It’s got a rear window wiper, ABS, front-wheel drive, anti-theft, and that air-bag system that actually deploys based on the weight of the occupants. Great for my kid. Crash test ratings are good, great gas mileage, and lots of nooks and crannies for storage.

The best part, auto-start! Anyone who lives in a bad winter zone knows the nirvana of auto-start. No more running out to warm up the car before you get ready. The only real down side is, it’s bright yellow. But it’s not a massively ugly color. I’m already getting used to it. My sister says I should name it Bumblebee (shades is pretty close to his too). Now if I can just figure out how to get my little Tigger antennae topper on it (antenna’s runs from just above the windshield along the center of the roof), it’ll really start looking like my car.

Next year things will be a little tight, but given I no longer have to pay to fix up my junker, it’ll balance some. I’m just so happy to know I don’t have to go out and start the car tomorrow after the ice storm that’s due tonight. And while I never cared all that much about my car stereo, having one where the LED hasn’t faded to the point where you can’t tell what radio channel you’re on is very nice.

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Deep Cleansing Breaths!

07 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

Ok, trying not to scream. Seriously trying. Trying harder than I do whenever I see another fricking JEL commercials. For the non-midwestern folks, that’s the Just Eliminate Lies teen group which, like truth.org, continually uses bogus statistics and ignores any accurate facts about drugs or smoking. Hypocrisy is alive and well folks, and I just found a great big steaming pile of it.

Ok, calmer now, or getting there at least. I’ve just found a website that claims to have real sexed facts. And on this helpful sight that lives in the guise of telling kids the truth about sex, what did I find? They actually have the nerve to take multiple questions from men about being potential sex addicts, one of whom only said he has masturbated at least every day for 8 years, and congratulate him on accepting his addiction! Are you f’ing kidding me? If anybody thinks they have an addiction to anything, the only responsible answer you can give them is seek professional help before self-diagnosis! There’s also comments in here claiming that excessive masturbation can lead to memory loss. And what’s their biggest reason behind this theory, that men who masturbate excessively are more likely to take sexually enhancing drugs and that is part of why they can have memory loss. OMFG!

And so, in my quest to never assume I have the right answer, I checked for reliable sources of legitimate information. I hunted through PAGES of BS articles that actually repeated the same kind of crap, as well as all the other dumb garbage that is still being said about masturbation, before finally finding some legitimate medical sites (like WebMD) that dismiss every one of these claims. They have acknowledge that over indulgence can cause problems with neurotransmitters, but the levels they are talking about seem to indicate this would require doing it 15+ times a day every day. At that point, you have an OCD issue to deal with before you worry about biochemistry.

This is the crap I have to keep my kid away from, and it’s everywhere. I was having a conversation one day and someone mentioned that they keep telling us child pornography is rampant on the internet. But not one of the people in the conversation could ever recall coming across any, ever. How can something be rampant if internet geeks aren’t seeing it? But do you know what I do see, fiction about sexuality that is so pervasive you have to hunt through the garbage to find shreds of the truth.

Ok, so a thoughtful viewer asked what we should have in a sex education class. I have decided that’s my next step. I’m going to come up with a reasonable class agenda. Coming soon ladies and gentlemen.

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Sexual Liberation For All!

06 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

So after replying to a comment in my last blog, I started wondering. Is there more I could do to combat the sexual stifling that people are still perpetuating on the young in our world? Talking about my feelings on the subject, and the damage what we teach our children can cause is one thing, but what about on a bigger scale?

They started my son on Sex Ed last year. First of all, that title is a joke. You are not teaching anything about sex. You are teaching about stages of puberty and disease and pregnancy prevention. If it was really a sex education course, the 5th graders would leave with some more significant understanding of their bodies and the changes they are experiencing in desires, not just physical alterations. And there would be a course on porn and masturbation.

As I was saying, they started them last year, and I was unable to attend the informational meeting. Pretty pissed about that, because I would’ve loved to say some things. But the most important thing to me was to find out what they were teaching. So I called my school board and got a layout of the curriculum. Basically, I was scouring for any hint of abstinence based teaching. I was quite relieved to find none.

But I know not all school districts are being smart about this. Too many are still using abstinence only teaching, and it’s only to the detriment of their communities and the country in general. So I wondered, is there more I can do. Well the smart internet researcher knows to look for existing groups before creating their own agenda, so I did some hunting. It seems sexual liberation is only for the homosexual and BDSM sect. Now please don’t misunderstand me. Those individuals have good reason to band together and fight the negative attitude that still exists around their lives. I am a firm supporter of their liberation…but what about the rest of us?

In an earlier post I mentioned how one small thing, what we teach our kids about sex, could impact their entire sexual future. Some might call that a leap, but I believe in Systems Thinking. One thing affects another, and the ending outcome from one action can spread quite massively. So let’s expand on this idea. If we could teach our children that sexuality is not something to hide, if we could teach them about respect for themselves and their partner in a sexual situation, what might this also do for the issues of homophobia and views of alternate sexual behavior?

I can’t help but think that opening up the minds of children to sexuality and respect would also spread to their views of sexual activity they don’t choose to engage in themselves. Naive? Maybe, but isn’t it worth a shot? If we can liberate ourselves and the next generation, could we end a lot of different forms of sexual repression? I have to believe we could.

The sexual revolution began in the 60’s they say, but when did it end? I don’t think there is an end to any revolution until one side emerges victorious, and I think we’re still fighting this one. The liberation isn’t complete, and the repressers haven’t shut us up, so I believe we are looking at what can only be described as a cold war. The religious right are just one satellite of the repressive regime. The educational system, conservative government groups and lobbies are also in play. And who’s on our side? That’s a great question. We seem to have small groups of resistance fighters (like GLAAD) doing what they can, but they can’t win the war with the small victories they claim. Every step forward seems to bring two steps back.

So while hunting for like minded individuals on the topic, what did Google yield? Well, we have the aforementioned groups supporting the homosexuals and fans of alternate sexual behavior (if there’s a better term, that doesn’t still sound like we’re labeling people as pervs, please tell me), and a whole lot of ridiculous thoughts on feminism. We have the militant feminist, who most women agree do nothing but harm the cause. Making men our enemy and changing stewardesses to flight attendants is doing what exactly? Then we have the people who say feminism is corrupting our ideas of love and marriage and that women don’t want sexual freedom really, it’s just this stupid idea we had that to be free we have to be as casual towards sex as men have been in the past.

Aren’t you all glad to know that you’re all really looking for love and marriage and the desire for more sex is just a myth you’ve been fed? Good, let’s all shut down our accounts and go join eHarmony. I did find groups, like the ACLU, who are combating abstinence only sex ed, which is a good start. But I couldn’t find any groups who were dedicated to expanding our ideas of sexuality and freeing us from the repression previous generations have wrought. I’m not sure how I will proceed from here, I have a lot more research to do, but I’d gladly take any information anyone can impart. And I’ll pass along any new avenues for progress I find. And in the future, try to do so a little more succinctly. But knowing me, no promises.

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She Bop!

05 Dec 2007 | By Kat

(originallly posted on my AFF blog)

I learned the true meaning of this song a few years back, but I still crack up when I hear about people learning for the first time. But, at the same time, it makes me kind of sad. I guess with the passage of time all things change, but Cyndi had to carefully construct this song (and video) with subtle hints about the real story, to make sure it was played.

With all the things people bitch about on the radio now, and the stuff they were just starting to bitch about then, a simple fun pop song about self love had to be hidden in innuendo to be allowed on public radio. WTF is wrong with people?!

If you REALLY think teaching kids abstinence is a good idea, and we all know there are shortcomings to that theory, why the hell wouldn’t you want to teach them about masturbation? They gotta get off some way, gotta deal with their hormones, so why not talk to them about Cyndi’s ideas of “Self Service.”

This thought came to mind when I was reading a post on one of my forums, asking people how often they masturbate and if they ever felt guilty. There were men on there just astounded by women saying they do it 3+ times a day and conversations about keeping battery chargers in their bedrooms (I was telling everyone about Energizer’s 15 minute battery charger). Haven’t men got the jist of this yet? Women need sexual release too, even if they are getting some on a regular basis. And the only women who complain about men taking a long time in the bathroom, are the one’s who haven’t been introduced to their own special BOBs.

Reminds me of that statistic. 70% of women masturbate in the shower and the other 30% sing. Do you know what they sing? I didn’t think so.

For the record, I do both, though not usually at the same time. And while I may have felt that familiar tug of guilt when I was younger, I assure, I’m over it now. :*

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